We decided, after a good doctor appointment, that it was time for us to tell the kids a small bit of what was going on with mom.
We waited a week so that we could tell them while on vacation.
You see, our kids did not know we were expecting a baby. They only knew they had flown to Hong Kong to be with mom and Hope. Then they knew that we decided to go to America early. Our kids truly are so flexible that they didn’t ask too many questions about why. What did surprise us was the fact that they didn’t pick up much on how stressed Steve and I were. Especially on the flight.
The problem was that everyone else in the world, who knows us, knew our situation, except for our kids. We were constantly having to whisper to people, “shh, the kids don’t know”.
There was a reason for this. For the first 14 weeks of the pregnancy, we were unsure what was going to happen with the pregnancy. There were so many unknowns. We are not delusional… we know that we cannot keep our children from the pain of the world… but as their parents it is our decision how much we share and when. We felt that they were still too young to be introduced to all we were walking through. We felt that if they were older they would have more emotional maturity to hear, and process the situation, but at there age, they weren’t ready for that.
So, after a positive doctor appointment, we decided it was time to tell them. We took a few minutes while at our nice hotel in San Antonio and explained to them that right now we were a family of 6, but that we might become a family of 7.
We shared with them that I was pregnant with a baby boy, and we were going to name him Luke. It took a few seconds and then Anna said “good. I knew we needed another boy”. Elizabeth just kept looking at me, and I think she was really putting some things together… all the many doctor appointments I had… other pieces of conversations. All beginning to make sense. Then she looked at me and smiled and said “good”. It was really sweet.
Nate just kept saying “a boy? A boy??” :) I think he was in shock.
The kids were the first to know the baby’s name. We felt they deserved, as the siblings, to be first in the know about SOMETHING!
They were VERY excited!
At this point, our kids know that we are still praying hard that baby Luke will stay safe while growing in mom, and that when it is time for him to be born, that God will keep everyone safe. And they are good at praying!! They prayed hard for baby Hope and they believe God will take care of Luke the same way!
We explained to them that Luke needed to be born in America. And they accepted that. They have not questioned why, and we have not gone into the details that there were complications.
We are thankful for the way that our kids have opened their hearts to the newest family member already. We are thankful that they are just able to rejoice at the new life!
They immediately promised to be extra good helpers since I would have 2 babies to take care of! :) I am very thankful! I will need it!